Recently I posted how to adopt a sustainable self-care lifestyle by building a foundation based on physical and safety needs. Read all about “Balance Dimensions and Hierarchy Prioritization for Self-Care.“ A self-care challenge workbook was developed based on a balanced and prioritized approach. This guide serves as a guide to kick-start self-care.
Self-Care Challenge, Who?
You of course! But why limit it to just you? Share your plan with a friend and get your kids on board. There is no shame in taking care of yourself. If you are a parent, you should be teaching and role modeling self-care to your children. Also, if you share your plan with loved ones they can help you stay motivated and complete your tasks. It can even be empowering for your child if you solicit their help; “Mommy needs to make a dentist appoint for the family, can you remind me tomorrow morning to call the office?” Trust me, children like the opportunity to tell you what to do!
Self-Care Challenge, Why?
This plan kick-starts the process and introduces self-care as a routine. The self-care challenge provides activities targeting primarily the physical needs. When introducing self-care that is easy to maintain, first we need to address our most basic of needs. Just like building a house we don’t start on the roof. First, we begin with a plan (our challenge), then we work on the foundation. The great thing about a foundation they don’t need as much upkeep and effort, so once established they continue providing support.
A Personal Example:
Over a year ago I fell on a farm with the kids. I crumpled down on myself like a pretzel. Once back on my feet I quickly hoped the kids to the car embarrassed and in pain. I did not go to the ER. Who would want their kids running around an ER? Instead, I cried all the way home and stuck my foot in a bucket of ice. For the next few weeks, I would look at my foot with the ankle sticking out and think, “I should go see someone.” I didn’t. Instead, I had a pedicure (painful) and popped some painkillers. None of the fun self-care ideas on Pinterest: read a book, face mask, tea, meditate, to name a few, were not going to help. I first had to fix a physical need.
This example not only illustrates the need for self-care but also why as parents it is sometimes a challenge. I did not go to the hospital because of my kids. In fact, the only reason I got help was two months later I took my son to the doctor and added a “by-the-way.” It turns out I had a full thickness tear of a ligament. How many of you can relate to this type of scenario? Perhaps you did not put off taking care of yourself for a child; maybe it was a friend, partner, or your job. Sometimes we need to prioritize ourselves.
Self-Care Challenge, When?
The sooner, the better. Self-care should not be stress-inducing, it should be flexible and tailored to your needs. There is no time limit and should be an everyday activity. Once you address the physical demands and lay a foundation, it will be easier to maintain.
Self-Care Challenge, the What and the How?
Download your free workbook today and start the journey. The workbook content includes:
- a checklist for physical and safety needs touching on all three of the dimensions for balanced self-care (professional, home, body/mind)
- Goal sheet and example
- Examples of activities targeting social and esteem needs
I am looking forward to collaborating with you. I believe we are all a work-in-progress and that “self-care” does not mean “alone care.” Download your workbook and get started. Feel free to add comments or email me with your progress or questions. If there is anything else, you would like information on let me know.